節選自：童年與自我意識、嫉妒、孤獨、聲音舞蹈
巴夏：這不是依賴關係，也不是需要，而是一種自我意識的感受。如果你在每個人身上看到你自己的影子，那麼你就知道你是圓滿的了。你不依賴於任何人來圓滿你。你是完整的。當你開始作為一個完整的人時，那麼你就會吸引你可以與之分享你的圓滿的人到你的生活中。但這並不表示是依賴關係。你明白嗎？
問：是的。所以孤獨是一種不完整（不圓滿）……它甚至不是真正的…
問：但如果那樣事情是如此不真實的，為什麼他們有這感覺目的是什麼呢？當我們走過這道門的時候，人們在這些日子里感受到了很多。
巴夏：是的，等一下……等一下，要明白，當你有感覺的時候，那不是第一件發生的事情。你人生中所創造的任何感覺只是作為一種對你信以為真的事情的反應發生。感受是由信念引發的，感受不是第一個出現的。這並不是像這樣簡單的：「這只是在這種情況發生時我的感覺。」其實不是這樣的。就像我們說的，沒有情境是內置意義的。你給每一種中立的情境都帶進了一個關於「這個情境意味著什麼」的信念。如果你把一種你設定「這個境遇意味著你將是孤獨的」的信念帶入到這個情境中，那麼當然你會感到孤獨。
但是如果你明白，你的孤獨不過是源於這樣一個事實：你相信你參與的情境本質上是「創造的孤獨」，那麼你將不必感到孤獨，——通過意識到你不必相信一定要以孤獨的方式去表現這個情境。你明白嗎？
巴夏：當你明白你一直都是- - -與此同時- - - 是孤單的而且也是連接著萬物的，那麼這取決於你，由你選擇相信哪條道路會起作用。因此，如果你感到孤獨，這只是一個機會和跡象來讓你意識到你相信孤獨，而且你也沒有連接到無限的造物；這是你的選擇，由你來決定。
如果你選擇感到孤獨，因為你選擇了相信孤獨，那麼接受你選擇那樣相信的方式，只要你接受這是你的選擇那樣相信，你就會明白，你有能力選擇另一種感受和相信方式。
不要否認它，不要逃避它，不要試圖擺脫它。無處可以逃避。你是你自己的宇宙。承認吧如果你感到孤獨，明顯是你選擇相信孤獨。問問你自己：「嗯，感覺孤獨對我有什麼用？相信孤獨對我有什麼用？」如果你聆聽自己的內心，你會得到答案的。即使答案只是你選擇相信孤獨，這樣你就能知道你不喜歡相信孤獨。
巴夏：因為它讓你感到孤獨，而你也不喜歡它!所以現在你已經認識到為什麼你選擇相信孤獨，而現在你已經有了這個經驗，而且你也不再需要體驗它了，那麼就選擇另一種信念吧，你就會獲得另一種伴隨而來的感受。好嗎？
Q : And with that dependency， or sense of need。。。
Bashar : It is not a dependency， it is not a need； it is a sense of self-awareness。 If you are seeing a reflection of yourself in everyone， then you know you are complete。 You are not dependent on anyone to complete you。 You are complete。 And when you begin to function as a complete individual， then you attract into your life individuals with whom you can share your completeness。 But that does not manifest as a dependency。 Do you follow me？
Q： Yes。 So loneliness is an incompleteness。。。 it’s not even real。。。
Q： But if such things are so unreal， what are the purposes for why they are felt？ People are feeling them a lot in these last days as we walk through this doorway。。。
Q： 。。。 like loneliness。。。
Bashar : Yes， but one moment。。。 one moment， understand that when you feel something， that is not thefirst thing that occurs。 Any feeling you ever create in your life only happens as a reaction to something you already believe to be true。 Feelings aresecondary to beliefs， they do not come first。 It is not simply： “Well this is simply the way I feel when this situation occurs。” No。 As we have said， no situation has built in meaning。 You bring into every neutral situation a belief about what that situation means。 And if you bring into that situation a belief that that set of circumstances means that you are going to be lonely， then of course you’re going to feel lonely。
But if you understand that your loneliness only stems from the fact that you believe that the situation you are involved withis inherently “loneliness creating，” then you will not have to feel loneliness – by recognizing that you do not have to believe that the situation has to be manifested in that way。 Do you follow me？
Bashar : When you understand that you are always –at the same time – alone and connected to everything， then it is up to you to choose which way you believe you will function。 So if you feel lonely， then that simply is an opportunity and an indication to you to realize that you believe in loneliness， and that you are not connected to the Infinite Creation； your choice； up to you。
Now， if you choose to feel lonely because you chose to believe in loneliness， then accept that you chose to believe that way， and as soon as you accept that it was your choice to believe that way， then you will understand that you have the ability to choose to feel and believe another way。
Do not deny it， do not run from it， do not attempt to get rid of that idea。 There is now here to get rid of anything to。 You are your own universe。 Acknowledge that you obviously chose to believe in loneliness if you feel lonely。 Ask yourself： “ Well， how does it serve me to feel lonely？ How does it serve me to believe in loneliness？” You will get ananswer if you listen to yourself。 Even if the answer is only that you chose to believe in loneliness， so that you could learn that you don’t prefer to believe in loneliness。
Bashar : Because it makes you feel lonely， and you don’t like it! So now that you have recognized why you chose to believe in loneliness， and now that you’ve had the experience， and you no longer need to have the experience， then choose another belief and you will get another feeling to go hand in hand。 All right？
