巴夏:【什麼是人類導致「衝突」的真正原因？】

2019/07/11 翻譯:Jimmy

影片摘自：2019-Exploring the Portal of Probabilities

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I have one more question.
我還有一個問題。

Yes.
好的。

Okay. So, I… I didn't think it's possible by change my position at work to be a facilitator. Umm… so, one of thing I find out that I really not good at conflicts.
好的。(既使是)身為一位引導師，我不認為我有辦法透過改變我在工作中的立場…。嗯…因而其中一點我發現的是，我真的不擅長處理紛爭衝突。

You are not good at conflict?
妳不擅長處理衝突紛爭？

Like handling conflicts like I feel like I freeze.
像是在調解衝突時，我常覺得自己會呆住。

Why?
此話何出？

Umm… if I would have to track back, I would think that when I grow up, my family member is alcoholics. Maybe some of…
如果我必須追溯回想原因的話，我會認為那和我成長過程中家庭成員有人酗酒有關。可能一些…

Alright. But that's not what I'm really asking.

好的。但那不是我真的要問的問題。

Okay.
好的。

What is conflict?
什麼是「衝突」？

Well, conflict is just a lot of heat flow.
嗯，衝突只是大量的激烈能量流動吧！

No. No. What causes conflict?
不，不。是什麼東西造成衝突的？

People have different opinions…
呃…人們「持有不同的見解」造成的…

Sort of, but that's not really it.
有幾分是，但那並非真正的原因。

Um…Their vibration is different. I'm just guess…
嗯…他們的振頻不相符。這只是我的猜測…

That's a side effect, but that's not really the cause. What causes conflict?
振頻不相符只是(衝突產生的)副作用，但那並不是造成衝突的原因。是什麼導致衝突的？

Different interest?
不同興趣嗎？

You're closer.
你越來越接近嘍。

Mmm…Mmm…Each feel that in need is not being fulfilled.
導致衝突的起因在於：每個「苦陷需求而沒被滿足(也沒獲得適當關注)」的感受。

If you can use your communication skills to find out what it is each believes they are missing,
如果你能夠善用你的溝通技巧，找出他們雙方(或對方)認為自己缺乏(需要)的是什麼，

what each believes they are not being fulfilled in, what is their basic wish, their basic need that they need fulfilled, which sometimes can be very simple.
找出什麼是他們各認為沒被滿足(或關注)的，找出什麼是他們需要被滿足的基本期望、基本需求，那麼要處理那些東西(感受)，有時候是很容易做到的。

Once you find that out, you may then use your imagination to find that there may be many ways,
一旦你找出那些需求背後的感受，你便能夠藉由你的想像力去發現「有許多的解決方法」存在，

many ways that their basic needs can be fulfilled simultaneously by something neither had thought of.
有許多「他們的基本需求可以同時被滿足而雙方未曾想到」的方法存在。

Because very often in your reality because of the compartmentalization of your consciousness and belief system,
因為在你們的實相裡，由於你們「對萬物經常會去區隔劃分」的意識和信念系統，

the idea is that many people will think they need one thing and that creates the conflict, but in fact they actually need something very different and much simpler to resolve the conflict within themselves.
此概念的重點是：許多人會認為他們因「需要某樣東西」而造成衝突，但事實上，他們需要的實際上是非常不同(於他們認為的東西)，而且是更容易解決他們之間衝突的東西。

So you can get at the basis of what it is they feel they are missing that would fulfill them on a very fundamental level, you usually find it's very similar, even though they seem to be at odds.
因此你可以依照「他們認為他們缺少什麼」，並且在非常基礎性的層面上滿足他們，你通常會發現雙方的基本需求是非常相似的，即使它們看起來不一致。

They are really not. Because they're probably both feeling that something is missing that is very similar for each of them.
他們需求的基礎真的並非不一致。因為他們可能都覺得自己缺少某東西，那是他們彼此非常相似的地方(他們彼此都需要的東西，如被尊重、被聽見、被關注)。

And that's why the conflict is there, because they are seeing a reflection from one another of something that they themselves feel is missing.
而這就是為什麼衝突會發生的原因。因為他們從對方身上看到一個「他們覺得自己正欠缺的東西」的反映。

And the conflict comes from being afraid to address that and resenting being shown that by the other person, thinking that the other person is the cause of it or that their ideology is the cause of it,
而衝突就來自：害怕去提出和面對那(自己缺失的)部分，並厭惡被別人展示出(那缺失)，認為對方或對方的意識形態是造成衝突的原因，

when in fact it simply something they feel is missing from themselves that is very easily attained, if you understand what the basic need is that needs to be fulfilled.
當事實上，造成紛爭的起因只是他們感到自己正欠缺某東西，而如果你了解「什麼是對方必須被滿足的基本需求」(如傾聽、尊重等)，那是十分容易被滿足的。

So if you can have some of those conversations with each of the persons that are in conflict, and find out what their basic like “If you could just feel fulfill, what would fulfill you?”, “What is the real thing that you believe you need here in its simplest form?”
因此，如果你可以和每個產生衝突的人進行一些對話，並找出他們的基本需求(產生該需求的基礎)，例如「如果你可以感到需求被滿足，那會是什麼滿足了你？」、「以最單純的形式來觀察陳述，你認為你真正需要的是什麼？」

You will usually find there's more commonality between them than you think, and that alone can actually begin to resolve the conflict, because then they see commonality instead of difference.
你通常會發現，雙方之間的需求有(存在著)比你想像更多的共通性，而光是找出那共通性就能夠實際化解掉衝突，因為，他們會看到的是彼此的「相似」而不是彼此的「差異」。

Yes.
好的。

Yes?
同意嗎？

You can do that. There's nothing to be afraid of. You can help.
你可以做到的！沒什麼可怕的。你可你幫忙他們做到的！

I can. Thank you.
我可以做到。非常感謝您。

You're welcome.
不客氣。

You will find generally the most of those kinds of conflicts come down to some very basic things like “I don't feel supported, I don't feel heard, I don't feel valued, I don't feel loved, I don't feel respected”. Very basic things.
一般來說你們會發現，大多數這類的衝突都歸結(起因)於一些非常基本的東西，像是：「我覺得不受到支持，我覺得我的訴求沒人聽見，我覺得別人不重視我的價值，我覺得自己不被愛，覺得自己不受尊重」等等，非常基本層面的東西(感受)。