問：
Another question that comes up has to do with self worth.
還有一個提問，是關於“自我價值”的
Many people find on their journey that they think they had achieved a certain level of self valuation
很多人，在走過一定的人生之旅後，都會覺得：自己已經達到了一定程度的自我價值的認可
And then they will find a circumstance comes up that triggers them to devalue themselves or feel that they have really not accomplished a full recognition of their self-worth.
但是，隨後發生的一些情況，卻“打臉”了他們這種想法，觸發他們否認自己，或者，認為自己並沒有真正完全地認可自我的價值
巴夏：
The first and most paradoxical thing to remember when confronted with issues of lack of self worth is first and foremost to own it as a choice that you made in experiencing that idea
當面對“自我價值缺乏”的問題時，你首先需要記住的一點，也是最為矛盾的一點，就是：恰是因為“你選擇”體驗自我價值缺失，才會讓你有這樣的經歷
Because the second you own it, instead of regretting that's coming up. You are empowered to deal with it, empowered to do something to change it
因為，就在“你接受”（擁有）事實的那一刻，而不是“悔恨”問題的发生，那麽，你就是在賦予自己能力（賦能），去處理問題，去做一些能帶來改變的事情
So it's only the denial of the fact that it comes up, the resistance to the fact that it comes up that actually makes it stick around and reoccur
但是，如果你否認已經发生的事實，抗拒已經出現的問題，那麽，你就只會讓這種情況“一而再，再而三”地发生
Remember that many people even when they deal with certain issues of self-worth may test themselves to make sure they have changed.
請記住：很多人，在處理某些關於自我價值的問題時，他們可能會測試自己，從而確定自己是否已經改變
So if you test yourself and trigger yourself by attracting a situation that makes you face the idea that you may not still allow yourself to feel worthy, then you are still reacting the same old way,
所以，當你发現自己吸引來某種境況，可能會讓你無法再感受到自我的價值，並且，你仍然以往日的方式，應對這種情況
You're testing yourself to see if you're going to change and respond differently, even if that gets triggered
那麽，你就是在測試自己，看清自己：在被觸发的情況下，你是否將做出改變，並以不同的方式做出應對
But the first step toward getting around that is to not deny or resist that it came up, but to acknowledge that you chose it
但要“繞過”這些“測試”，你需要做的第一步，並不是否認或者抗拒，而是承認：你選擇讓這種情況发生
Because by acknowledging that you chose to experience lack of self-worth again that keeps you in the seat of self empowerment to be able to explore it and do something about changing it
因為，當你承認“自己再次選擇體驗自我價值的缺失”，那你就穩坐“自我賦能的席位”，讓自己有能力探查情況，並做些能帶來改變的事情
And with enough practice, you will get used to the idea that you no longer need to do that
這樣的練習做得足夠多了，你就會漸漸習慣不需要這樣的“測試”
Because you will finally hone the skill of owning whatever comes up instead of resisting whatever comes up
因為，你已經遊刃有余，能夠“接受”任何发生的事，而不再對它們有所“抗拒”
Because remember,
因為，請記住：
It's not about what you experience in terms of what happens.
發生了什麽，你經歷了什麽，這些都無關緊要
It's about what you do with that experience
真正重要的是，你做了什麽
that makes the difference in your world.
只有這個，才會給你的世界帶來改變
So the first step always is to never deny or resist what happens. But to own it as something that can serve you in a positive way to know that there's a reason that it's there
因此，第一步：永遠不要否認或者抗拒已然发生的事，而是接受它，告訴自己：它的发生，是有某個原因的，並將帶給你積極正面的助益
And that puts you back in the driver seat and gives you the self empowerment and the control to explore in a more positive creative and inspirational way and to actually have some fun with exploring why you would have chosen to trigger yourself in that way
這樣，你就坐回了“駕駛座”，獲得掌控局面的能力，並可以更積極正面、更有創造性、更鼓舞人心地，甚至有點樂子地，去探索你為什麽：會選擇觸发自己吸引來這種境況
And then more answers will come up more ideas will surface
然後，你腦中就會冒出更多的答案，湧現出更多的“奇思妙想”
And you'll be on a different journey with that experience at that moment.
而在那一刻，你也將踏上不同的旅程
So owning it and not resisting it is the first step.
所以，你需要做的第一步，就是：接受，而不是抗拒
問：
OK! That's very helpful.
好的！非常有幫助！
